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A Boudoir experience first off is a wonderful fun pampered memorable day. Its traditionally a bucket list kind of day, think like a spa day but with the camera doing the "caressing" not a masseur.

I think though it should be considered more like a necessary salve for your mental health. After having the lovely day, your boudoir artwork can I believe genuinely help you to fight the conditioning that the world throws at you non stop. The conditioning that chronically affects your perceived body image. That artwork acts just by being on your wall as a subconcious frequent visual affirmation.

Perhaps it will even be the catalyst for you to research leveraging neuroplasticity and then use that piece of art to even more effectively counter your misperceptions about your body. Misperceptions that are constantly, subliminally perpetuated by an unforgiving social media landscape.

Wikipaedia's definition is "Boudoir photography is a form of professional photography that is intimate, flattering the curves and beauty of the client's body. Boudoir, which is French for a woman's private dressing room, inspires the intimacy of this genre of photography." In practice a boudoir photography experience means there will be a certain level of undress.

I will do my best to make you feel comfortable by plying you with alcohol. Not really...well not much, more like I will spend most of the time telling you to imagine yourself in a scenario or move your hand to there or get changed into that and sit by that and the time will fly by and you won't have much of a chance to feel self concious and uncomfortable.

Your Boudoir experience won't unfortunately instantly change a lifetime of conditioning about your body image all on its own. So you may still see flaws but we together will have presented them in their absolute best light.

If you then get wall art and its good because we worked together to make it so even with flaws, it becomes harder for you to exagerrate those flaws in your head when the evidence is right there in front of you. I see boudoir wall art as potentially your frequent subconcious visual affirmation. Ideally it will be the catalyst to make you go further and leverage your brain's neuroplasticity to change your perception of your "flaws".

Wikipaedia's definition "Neuroplasticity refers to the brain's ability to reorganize and rewire its neural connections, enabling it to adapt and function in ways that differ from its prior state." and "Neuroplasticity was once thought by neuroscientists to manifest only during childhood, but research in the latter half of the 20th century showed that many aspects of the brain exhibit plasticity through adulthood" Makes sense I think. If you have ever changed a habit, even an ingrained one, that is neuroplasticity at work and I think it can work for body appreciation. It is not as simple as just deciding, it is done at an emotional subconcious level. I do think it is absolutely possible for anyone to do it themselves (they probably already have). I personally think I have intentionally done it for major things twice already in my life.

My first intentional use of neuroplasticity was to stop smoking, although I didn't know it was called neuroplasticity then. I used the Allen Carr book "The Easyway to Stop Smoking" I was massively sceptical but it worked. I believe it worked not only because his book conveyed convincing rational arguments but the really clever bit about it is the emotive subconcious language he uses which makes you picture scenarios. I have admittedly lapsed over the years but not for long and every time I have used the book to stop again and it has not let me down. I know I need to keep vigilant and I keep the book available just in case in a moment of weakness the conditioning the world throws at me about smoking gets to me and I get addicted again. By the way if you smoke I am not judging, either way its up to you, I am just using it as an example of a difficult mindset shift that was sucessfully achieved via neuroplasticity.

My second time was stage fright. When I was very young I had a bad experience in a production and it made me petrified of and dead set against performing for lots of my adult life. This affected not just acting though, anything from work presentations, even down to just saying who I was and what I did in meetings made me really anxious. I vividly remember those crappy introduce yourself moments turning me into a frightened rabbit. The agonising wait to say my name as each person in the group slowly, apparently confidently, and with ease took their turn explaining who they were and what they did. The ever increasing fear as the moment got closer and closer to me and I needed despite my heartrate and my breathing to sound normal in the full glare of the spotlight.
I eventually decided (far too late really) that I needed to do something about this phobia. I researched it and discovered neuroplacticity. Long story short, I reimagined the early event going a better way and I repeated that reimagining maybe 10, maybe 50 times. It worked enough so that I didn't absolutely dread the idea of any kind of public speaking. I think I did an introduce yourself meeting or two and it felt ok. That gave me confidence. I love going to the theatre and I thought well I have come this far, I will try acting classes. Amazingly enough I loved them and they were not just not nerve wracking, they were mainly fun. So then I thought can I try this professionally? and I actually got a few gigs as a screen actor, I even briefly had an agent. I suspect unfortunately I here hit my limit of talent.
Could I today appear on stage and do shakespeare or speak in front of 1000 people. Probably not without tonnes of practice, but I don't now completely discount the possibility and I am not panic stricken just thinking about it. That is the power of neuroplasticity.

This is what I think Boudoir has the potential to do for you. You have the wonderful experience, you get the great art and you use the neuroplasticity to reimagine your body image. The art sits there silently, convincingly arguing against the conditioning but you might be able to use it intentionally to change your perceptions. Then I would say go and try exposure therapy (not literally exposure, don't blame me if you get arrested, more like quietly accentuate what you were concerned about until you hopefully aren't nearly as worried)

No I am not and you are absolutely free to take my answers with a pinch of salt. I will say though that this study here says that "Body appreciation predicted increased self-esteem, flourishing and wellbeing" and that "Body appreciation shows promise as a viable intervention target." I would argue that one way to improve Body Appreciation is via Boudoir Photography and the daily effect of seeing your body as a beautiful artwork. I guess you could see me as more like a bespoke gym equipment manufacturer. We can together create your rolls royce of an exercise bike (with the go faster stripes) but if and how you use it long term is up to you. Even if it just sits there it will look pretty good and not even slightly rust.

I will edit the images a bit, maybe to add to the overall aesthetics. My changes for beauty though are minimal. Especially so with todays AI "enhanced" bits of software, if you make adjustments and the generative AI hallucinates even a bit, there is no way that is going to convince anyone. So instead of airbrushing, what we need to do is get it right, mainly in camera. We do this by choosing the right outfits, the right make-up, the correct lighting, the best poses etc etc. That is the way to get great believeable art.

In one of three types of places, each has advantages and disadvantages. They are either at a hotel room or at my home studio or at a place of your choice. The hotel room allows us lots of options of how the background will look plus its a neutral spot so it may suit both of us. Depending on the cost of the hotel room it may already be included in the experience day fee. My home studio is set up for boudoir work and I have access to all my equipment. However it is limited in the background looks we can achieve. If you choose a place clearly you are likely to feel more at home but equally I may not be as efficient as I would normally be nor have all the equipment. One additional thing to note is that wherever we do the experience I will also use body worn camera(s) for CCTV purposes. We will discuss where we will hold the experience during our initial conversations.

Nope, I will direct and pose you when needed. Just a reminder, I will be filming not photographing you. That produces a high quality video yes but it also means I can take high quality stills from that video. The effect of that is you get slightly more natural poses which can lead to better more authentic images. So even if you can pose, it may not be the actual posed shots I take for the stills. Having said all that. If you fancy voguing I will happily film it and I bet I can extract some great if not necessarily boudoir images from it.

You should wear what you look and feel best in. Only you can truly decide that although I can advise on what I think are more timeless looks.

I am based in Brighton on the south coast of England. Its about an hour from London. Not far to come to make serious inroads into your body appreciation.

Yes, I do! I’d love to travel to you. Just send me an email, and we’ll make a plan for your shoot.

As much before as possible. You and I need 3 weeks at a minimum just to make sure our plans for your day are comprehensive and then of course I will need to arrange any location booking or booking of a makeup artist if required.

The experience costs £395, which includes 2 hours to create your high quality video. After that at the reveal you can buy a video and/or images. An edited 4K video of your Boudoir experience is £300. Each image is £50 as a digital download. The digital download is actually a tiff file at full resolution, a png at full resolution, a jpeg at full, half and instagram ready resolution. Digital files can then be converted into wall art for an extra £50 (I recommend this for using as an aid to improving body appreciation) or a box for £30 or an album for £20

Give me a call/text on +44(0)792 005 0803 or send me a message.

I outline the process here